However, there are plenty of apps on both the iOS and Android stores that offer
some of the same features of stalkerware, like seeing a phone’s real-time
location, but which market themselves as being intended for legitimate uses (like
keeping an eye on an aging parent with memory issues). These programs are
available on, and can be downloaded from, the official App Store (iOS) or the
Google Play Store (Android).
It is technically possible to design stalkerware so that it can be installed without
access to a phone. For instance by sending the user a link to a file to download
and tricking them into thinking they are downloading something benign.
However, such cases seem to be the exception, with the norm being that
stalkerware is downloaded directly onto the user’s phone while the attacker has
access to it. Meaning, the most likely scenario, if your ex wants to try to install
stalkerware on your phone, is that they will do it when they have physical access
to your phone.
Detecting stalkerware on your phone
It is illegal for someone to install stalkerware on your phone without your
permission. If you have reason to believe your ex has installed such a program on
your phone, and if it safe to do so, take your phone to the police. Before taking it
to the police, put the phone in airplane mode so it will be disconnected from the
internet. (For an extra layer of security, you can also turn off the phone or put it
in a so-called “Faraday bag”, if you have access to one). This way, your ex won’t
see that you are going to the police. And, in case the stalkerware app has some
kind of remote delete function, it should also be impossible for your ex to use it if
your phone is unable to connect to the internet.
But how do you even know if there is stalkerware on your phone? Unfortunately,
antivirus programs do not always spot stalkerware. And even when they do,
antivirus programs do not always flag them as malicious. Eva Gaupin of the
Electronic Freedom Foundation is among those working to change this situation,
so that more antivirus companies would both detect stalkerware and flag it as
malware. However, since this is not yet the case, users need to be extra alert.
Regardless of the potentially incomplete nature of a virus scan, it is still a good
idea to scan your phone with an antivirus program if you have access to one.
Check all results carefully to see if there are any surprises or even slightly
questionable findings. As noted, even if the antivirus finds stalkerware, it might
not flag it as malicious. If the antivirus finds a program you aren’t familiar with,
check online for an explanation of what it is or does.
Here are some steps to help you detect stalkerware on your phone:
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